Now many are probably wondering if Ms. Ross can sing with Ms. Streisand? And the answer is yes, of course. I feel that lyricist and composer, Denise Rich would be excellent for this project. There's a song that Ms. Ross recorded on her "Everyday Is a New Day" CD, titled, "Until We Met Again". It's the kind of song that's perfect for both, Ms. Ross and Ms. Streisand. If you are indeed, a real, Diana Ross and Barbra Streisand fan, you will totally get what I'm talking about. And yes, let's not forget great song writer, Ms. Carole Bayer Sager. It's a classic waiting to happen.

Now Ms. Ross and Ms. Streisand have mellowed and don't have anything to prove. The both of them are forever legendary. A complete CD, I'm not sure would work, but Ms. Ross hasn't done a "duet" CD yet. Maybe she can record with Ms. Barbra and 13, 14 other of her favorite famous friends like, Dionne Warwick, Donna Summer and throw in Ne-yo and some of the current hit makers.

In any event, we will have to wait and see if the rumor is true. Sometimes that's truth to a rumor, I hope this is the case with this one.

When asked about her current CD, she had this to say:

"There are still a lot of people who don't even know that this album is not a gospel record, even though I'm on a half-naked boy in my video," she said at the time. "Maybe I am required to work harder than others, and that's okay, because God doesn't put any more on me than I can bear. Maybe I do have to just push through and get people to accept my music. It's gonna be hard, because I started out doing gospel and people aren't used to that."

So while she's in Europe, she will be promoting her CD as well. I have a feeling that Ms. Williams is going to have a busy yet exciting summer 2009. And lets not forget, many of her fans were able to see her on RuPaul's reality series, "Drag Race".

Girlfriend has tapped into her gay following through "Destiny's Child" and her solo projects, unconditionally and with love. You go, girl!

Whenever a man is "accused" of being gay (and I'm loath to use the word "accused" because it seems to imply one needing to defend one's self rigorously against something untoward and deplorable; I hold that there's absolutely nothing wrong with being gay, therefore there's nothing to defend one's self against) he's forced, no doubt due to a social instruction informed by false notions of masculinity, to address the matter in a way that puts all the mainstream minds at ease and assures them that all is straight with the world.

That is to say, homosexuals are expected to keep completely silent (or be completely dishonest) about who we're dating, who we're living with, who we're sleeping with, who we love lest we offend the public proper, because (*nudge-nudge wink-wink*) we all know that homosexuality is depraved, disgusting, abnormal and immoral, and we homosexuals should be lucky that we're even allowed to exist much less damage the collective psyche and pervert the minds of children by being open and honest about who we are.

Much of this mentality has seeped into the consciousness of even those who consider themselves the most decent, upstanding individuals. But most sadly, it’s worked its way into the minds of many gay men.

We've become complicit in obstructing our own freedom and perpetuating the ferocious injustices designed to keep us as second-class citizens at best, and sub-human deviants at worst. Homophobes and heterosexists get to maintain their smug and comfortable lives with their dangerous illusions left intact, and homosexuals get to wallow in a deep and abiding shame, certain of only this one thing: not even God could love us.

Sometimes, we convince ourselves that answering in the negative is the truthful response. We tell ourselves that "gay" means something other than how we think of ourselves or our desires. "Gay," we say, "is going out, partying, clubbing, carrying on and injecting ourselves into the (largely white) 'gay lifestyle.' Gay isn't sex, it's romance; it's love. So long as I hold myself separate from that rambunctious, flamboyant and offensive community, as long as I never enter into anything romantic or loving with another man, I'm not really gay."

Other times, we self-medicate. We drink and drug ourselves into blindness and amnesia, assured that what we cannot see and what we cannot remember we cannot be. Or, we act contrary to our very own nature, force ourselves into relationships with the opposite sex in hopes of proving our viability as "normal" human beings. We lay down with her, but to be aroused we must imagine him, thus ensuring the eventual destruction of two lives instead of one. These games of semantics we play to in order to maintain our sanity and our existence often end up costing us both.

For it escapes us that by "gay," the mainstream

Heterosexists and homophobes don't feel the need to dice us up into categories that afford us safety against the stigma of being labeled a "faggot."

They don't care if we're drunk or high when we do it, or whether or not we're wearing the most normal drag in our closets at the moment it happens, or if we're camouflaged with a wife and kids. To them, we're all faggots: the tranny in red pumps, the discreet dude in sagging jeans, and the husband sucking anonymous d**k in the park. We're all faggots and we all deserve to die.

If we happen to be faggots and persons of color, multiply all of that hostility by two because in this case, we must also contend-and very, very closely-with the power and sway of religious institutions. Religious institutions in the main and the black religious institutions in particular, provide solace for people who feel largely powerless in their lives by placing some Other on the altar for sacrifice and consumption.

That some of us have survived all of this relatively unscathed is nothing short of miraculous. That there are some of us who still speak honestly and openly about our lives or refuse to hide or cannot hide or dare to love in the midst of it all is the most salient demonstration of courage I've ever seen. Indeed, it's no small feat to withstand the God of Eternal Threats, Torture and Punishment. It's an even greater accomplishment to endure his followers. If that isn't a testament to strength, resilience and grace, then I don't know what is.

It's into this tumultuous, highly-dysfunctional world-unassailable in its ignorance, unfounded in its righteousness, exceeded in its hatred only by its bloodlust-that Drake, a young, bi-racial (read: black) man, finds himself thrown.

And then there's us: heterosexists and homophobes who crave someone at whom aspersions can be cast, to whom a cross can be affixed; and homosexuals bubbling with wish-fulfillment and needing to be confirmed by any see-he's-gay-too so-it must be-okay poster boy that can be exhumed from the ruins.

It's this perpetual adolescent pathology that prevents us from seeing the beauty and complexity of the world in which we live and the beauty and complexity within ourselves. When our childishness interferes, we aren't able or aren't willing to see each other-with adult eyes-for who we are really. And our greatest failure occurs when we deny ourselves the opportunity for a closer inspection which would reveal that what we believed was a crown on the boy's head was actually a tiara all along.

And I say we should let him wear it.

Dear Omar
My lover and I have been together for about 7 years, and recently have stopped having sex, yet he doesn't want to break it off. I'm not so sure what I want to do. We still love each other but we are no longer in love. Is this normal for long term relationships? Should I hang in there? LA

Dear LA
Sounds like its just a case of the seven year itch, what I think you should do is talk with your man and find out is he just not sexual or if he's just doesn't want to be with you if it's the latter then you set a date to seduce your man. 

You arrange for you both to get out of work early one day and you slip on the new pair of see through panties you order online call the Chinese take out and have them deliver and you seduce your man. 

You see passion and excitement doesn't just happen. You must work on it everyday you must flirt with each other let each other no how much they mean to you.

If you truly care for each other then you know that working on your relationship is done everyday.

We all moved in together because of our own current financial situations, but I'm paying all the bills trying to keep things going then I am waiting on them for their half of the rent, as if I have nothing better to do with my own money what should I do? HELP!

Dear HELP
Sounds to me like you in a your in a bit of a situation, You need to sit down with your roommates an explain that rent and house hold bills are due a the 1st. Of the month if your roommates are looking for some one to take care of then they either need to find a sugar daddy or go back to their Mamas and Daddy's. And that you aren't doing it then make sure you stop.

Will help determine how to deal with the situation should it present itself. And last but not least how do you confront her about gossip there are a few ways you can go about it, but I like the direct approach simply ask her and based on her answer you'll know what you need to know. But however you choose to do it be professional always.